Fear. Is it an emotion? A feeling? or maybe an instinct? According to psychological education it is one of the basic human emotions but works like survival instinct. As an emotion it shows up when our nervous system recognises danger and feels unsafe. It makes sense when there is a life threatening situation, clearly we need to run but often in adult life we are afraid in situations like speaking publicly or making a call to close the deal. None of these two are statistically life trathining. Why are we afraid to ask for promotion at work even when it is only to reflect the correct work we are completing. Perhaps the examples can be multiplied and different for everyone. Naturally there are a handful of people who are naturally fearless and if this is not a symptom of any neurotic disease let me say they are just lucky.

What about the rest? What about all these successful people that we look up to and dream to be like them? Are they all fearless? Over last summer I had indisputable pleasure to personally meet a few of my success idols and asked them how is it with them? Guess what, nothing revealing or extraordinary was said. On the contrary they pointed out the obvious, the same as what can be found in autobiographical books of all great people. It turns out that despite a few brave decisions taken under influence or at a young and old age, they all have the same fears. The only difference is that they act on their dreams despite their fear. In my natural ability to overthink, I straight away jumped to the conclusion that maybe they were afraid less? But with all fairness, is there an objective way to measure and compare fears of different people? No! We all have our own individual scale and it makes no sense to compare my measures to yours.

What is it then that makes some to act despite their fears and others to stuck in stagnation and keep wasting the possibilities? The answer lies between two other, different feelings – desire and disappointment. We act despite fear when we want something so strongly that despite the consequences or possibilities of our action can bring discomfort. We aspire to achieve, become or reach something with such power that the cost is no longer so expensive.
The second drive is disappointment or discomfort which is nothing less than the pain experienced by current circumstances. The discomfort which again despite the action could be risky we can not stand the position we are in so much that we will not bear it any longer.

This means that if we want to train ourselves to be people of action we need to either kindle our desires or add a significant meaning to the dreams that will be fuel to power through the fear. Or on the contrary we need to hate the circumstances so much that we could not stand the pain anymore and action to improve the situation.

As I am all about positivity and believe that emotions we emit are like frequencies which attract similar frequencies, I will be suggesting to concentrate on the positive and to search for a motor that could make us unstoppable. Furthermore, I think every negative emotion can be turned into a positive and instead of not wanting poverty concentrate on and attract financial abundance. Perhaps, a combination of both positive and negative desires can create even a stronger force that will get us going. We are all different and different methods are to be applied. The best way to find what works for us is old and simple trial and error.
Nothing else left but wake all these dreams and visualise them daily, imagine we are there already and create the subreality you will not want to leave and therefore do what is necessary to be there in reality. There will be no fear holding us back from completing anymore.

I can sometimes get lost in the hope that life is as easy but in most of the times, reality has its ways to bring me down and I experience the bitterness too. Naturally the above is only the first step of how to do this first action, how to overcome the blocking fear and start. On the way there will be plenty of challenges and new fears to work on for sure. Anyway today I am really proud of my achievements because even though I didn’t reach the top of Kilimanjaro or throw myself out of the plane, or did anything to impress the wider public, I did much more than that. On a daily basis I am facing my fears and I am acting despite the shaking hands. And what is the best of all is that I note all these small things and tap myself on the shoulder. Well done Beata! Congratulations, You made it!!